I’m jealous of my kids teacher!

savingsmom · #1 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 12:47 PM

okay here is the thing ‘Bert’ has started pre -K this year, and is doing good.
No problem what so ever. He behaves good in school and pays attention to the teacher. The thing is though that when I try to teach Bert the same type of stuff at home - he will not behave or give me any attention. He will for his teacher but not me. This is getting on my nerves! I know that this is probably pretty common and stuff.

But is there any way to get past this jealous feeling? I just get to feeling so upset when I get thinking that he is so much better behaved at school than at home. How can I get him to act better at home (besides dealing out punishment left and right the whole day through)?

Please I just need to be told that this is common and that it happens to everyone and that it will get better with time.

Allaboutdeals · #2 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 01:09 PM

The same thing happens with my Kindergartener. I just have to remember to be thankful that he behaves out among other people. I've actually had other parents compliment him and say how polite he is. I'd rather have him misbehave at home and be good out rather than have it switched or to have him be horrid both places. My DH will say directly to him that he behaves for his teacher and he needs to behave at home too.

Rockin'Robin · #3 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 01:14 PM

Bless your heart, next you'll be jealous of his friends moms and his coaches and every one else that compliments you on how well behaved he is and what a great kid he is, etc. etc.

Believe me, I have 3 sons (13, 18 & 20) and I always remember asking people "Are you sure you're talking about MY kid??" For some reason they behave differently around others and you should be proud that he's doing well in school. You just have to hope and pray he continues as he gets older.

Thankfully, even my 2 oldest sons employers/managers/bosses have always been the same way when talking to me about them and I still think to myself "Are you sure you're talking about MY kid??"

Hope this helps you - positive feedback is a blessing I cherish.

Rooster · #4 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 01:50 PM

Well, geez, I wish ALL kids were this way! If they would just behave in my classroom, that's all I could ever ask for!

Rockin'Robin · #5 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 02:06 PM

Bless your heart!!

savingsmom · #6 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 02:47 PM

thanks - i really needed this
i have been around my 4 yr old and 2 yr old too long without even few mins of a break today

tiffinpa · #7 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by savingsmom

thanks - i really needed this
i have been around my 4 yr old and 2 yr old too long without even few mins of a break today

It's a MOM thing! Been there. It's normal. Trust me. Everything you're saying along with what others have posted is normal. Even went throug it recently with my 12 year old; had speech class past few years for his 'R's' and each week he would be sent home 'speech homework'. Do you think for a second he would do it in front of me? Heck no. He would clam up, not say a sound and storm off in tears yelling. It's a MOM thing!

ashcrouse · #8 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 07:12 PM

It happens to everyone, not on your own with this one!

I sub at a school where they impliment a "behavioral system" and it works fab. Everyone strarts out on a green, and if they are warned they move to yellow, if they are told again they move to red and then punishment goes into action. Kids can move back from yellow to green if they clean their act up, but can not move back from red once they get there. I've given it thought and it could deffinatly work at home with possibly tweaking and adjustments. If my son was old enough to understand we would deffinatly do it. Hope the suggestion helps :0)

mommato2 · #9 (**permalink**) 11-18-2009, 07:40 PM

I read a book by Dr. Dobson once called Bringing Up Boys. In it, he talks about their behavior and all sorts of other things. Anyway, he said that all children, not just boys, act out when they're at home because that is their comfort zone. He said parents should actually consider it a compliment for our children to act like this because they aren't worried about having to be any other way than themselves. Hope that makes sense. And, yes, my children are the exact same way. Sometimes it makes me crazy, but I guess I should be thankful they're good out in public.

vagabond2 · #10 (**permalink**) 11-19-2009, 07:55 AM

I'm going to take the over side....sorry ladies.....my son used to be that way....he was great at school but would misbehave at home. I mentioned this to a friend and she said it was because I was not consistent at home and did not follow through with the consequences. I had never considered that I might be the problem. Once I followed her advise we had no problems. I "afterschooled" him for 2 years and then I even pulled him out of school homeschooled him for 7 years with no problems. I made my mistakes but I always tried to be consistent with my expectations and followed through with the consequences. And I want you to know that I did not have the perfect child either....far from it.... however usually one look from me and perhaps occassionally a wooden spoon took care of many problems LOL

My children speak fondly of their childhood....they say they hope to raise their children the way we raised them...that is a compliment I truly appreciate....and yes they said I might earn the meanest mom reward but looking back they say I was the mom all their friends wanted LOL and at the time they couldn't figure out why.....LOL.....