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Originally Posted by vagabond2
Dana, you guys are so young! If I figure right your dh is the same age as my dd's bf and let me tell you he has tunnel vision....he tries to be caring etc but darn if there's sports or something more interesting he's there, its just the early 20's guy thing.
It sounds like you've matured a lot in the last 4 years. That's great! And I love that you want to give your kids a better life. Your dh obviously does as well with him entering the military. I've known many young people who've joined the military and become better people for it. They were searching for something but didn't know what and this gave them direction and most importantly the skills to go somewhere.
I understand about the communication....my dh was raised in an abusive home... Let me encourage you to continue to find ways to let him know you love him....5 Love Languages The Five Love Languages is a wonderful book which helped us understand each other better. My dh didn't realize that the little gifts I got him were my telling him I loved him, he thought because I didn't verbalize it that I didn't...and I could not stand him being all gushy telling me but not showing me. LOL
Keep us posted! We want to know how things are going! I am so glad today was a better day!!!! |
Yes I have this book. Of course he thinks its a stupid book.
I know we are young, that's why it seems so hard sometimes. Especially when money gets tight, or things aren't going great at work, he gets mean at home. I think my love language is words of affirmation and quality time, which is why my love tank is empty. I think I show love to him through acts of service. His last idea for "date night" was to see that horrifying move District 9. He's like 'wasn't that awesome!' I was ready to throw up. Date night is about once a year. The real issue here is I'm a christian and he is not. He hates God and tells me its all BS. SO that really is where I believe all this stems from. If I were to tell a pastor (which I have before) I know they would say well thats where you need to start from. They really had no answers. I KNOW someday he is going to mature and be a great husband, its just going to be long and hard waiting for God to work on him. On a better note, my midwife appt today was great, everything is going good with the pregnancy, and DH got called to work first thing this morning (AC work is slowing down because its been cool for a few days here in Miami). DS took a nap with no fuss, and a big stack of books I got from the library have turned out to be a great series (Love comes softly-Janette Oke). Thanks again ladies.