I'm sorry you feel isolated and your husband is being a jerk. Guys are such..dumbheads in relationships. They think if they ignore a problem it will just go away, but it doesn't. I had an ex many years ago who I was practically screaming for 6 months that we needed help/counseling and when I had enough and left he acted all surprised and didn't know where it was coming from. Idiot
. And the military thing is great...now he'll be gone for extended periods and you'll see you can manage without him. I guess he doesn't see this, though. I do feel bad for you. I and many others did manage to make it out of bad marriages with kids. And I'm sorry, but from your story that's exactly where it sounds your's is going. Best of luck. Congratulations on your new baby girl! I do hope things get better for you.