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Originally Posted by natandnick
As many of us are, my husband and I are now faced with the failing health of our parents. My FIL has late stage alzheimers and my MIL is currently in the hospital for a heart attack and stroke as a result of the heart attack. My MIL was taking care of my FIL before but now she is not capable. Even if we got 24hour care my MIL would not be able to live in her home due to the floor plan. No bathroom or bedrooms on the first floor. Our home would work for them and they are more than welcomed to live with us. I am a bit scared though. Finacially we are in rough shape. I work 2 jobs and my husband 3 and we are barely making it. With working like this we are both exhausted already. Of course we would need to bring in help but I do want to hear from other caregivers to see how this effect home life and finances. We are having a family meeting Friday and I want to have some knowledge with me to help in the decision.  I also need to mention I have a 15 year old at home and another SIL nearby. |
My heart goes out to you- reaching out to help is a wonderful thing, and yet very scary and stressful at the same time. I am not in your situation at this point (yet) but perhaps at your family meeting you could see if the SIL can help share duties one day a week at least to help you get some much needed rest/relief and perhaps help with a meal to help stretch the finances a bit more. Have a set schedule each week, and pencil some time in for you and your husband. When you take a bit of time to take care of yourself you will have more to give. I wish you the best of luck! Hope it all works out for you.